A young man went to seek an important position at a large printing company, He passed the initial interview and was going to meet the director for the final interview. The director saw his resume, it was excellent and he asked; 'Have you received a scholarship for school?' The boy replied; ''No' 'It was your father who paid for your studies?' 'Yes' He replied. 'Where does your father work?' 'My father is a blacksmith'. The director asked the young man to show him his hands,the young man showed him a pair of soft and perfect hands 'Have you ever helped your father at his job?' 'Never,my parents always wanted me to study and read more books,besides,he can do the job better than me'. The director said;'I have a request;when you go home today,wash the hands of your father and then come and see me tomorrow morning'. The young man felt his chance to get the job was high. When he got home home,he asked his father if he would allow him to wash his hands,his father felt strange and happy but with mixed feelings and showed his hands to his son,The young man washed his fathers hands little by little, it was the first time he noticed his fathers hands were wrinkled and they had so many scars,some bruises were so painful that his skin shuddered when he touched them, this made him realize what it meant for this pair of hands to work every day to be able to pay for his study. After cleaning his father's hands, he stood in silence and began to tidy and clean up the workshop, that night father and son had a long talk.The next morning, the young man went to the office of the director. The director noticed the tears in his eyes and asked him.'Can you tell me what you did and what you learned yesterday at your house?. The boy replied 'I washed my father's hands and stayed up to clean his workshop, now I know what it is to appreciate and recognize that without my father,I wouldn't be who I am today,by helping my father I now realize how difficult and hard it is to do something on my own'. The director said;'This is what I look for in my people,I want to hire someone who can appreciate the help of others and also who doesn't put money as his only goal in life,You are hired'. A child that has been cuddled, protected and usually given what he wants develops a mentality of 'I have the right' and will always put himself first;ignoring the efforts of his parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying our children?. The most important thing is that your child learns to appreciate efforts,experiences and difficulties and also learns the ability to work with others to get things done.